Editor’s Note: 2025 Update
This article was refreshed in 2025 to include updated advice and support strategies for parents of adult children struggling with addiction.
Watching your adult child struggle with addiction is one of the most heartbreaking challenges a parent can face. You may offer love, support, and even resources, but your child continues down a path of self-destruction. At Good Landing Recovery, we have helped many families through this painful process. The good news is that you can care for your own well-being and continue to offer faithful support, even if your child is not yet ready for recovery.
1. You Are Not to Blame
You may feel tempted to blame yourself for your child’s addiction. This is a heavy burden, but it is not one you were meant to carry. Even if you have provided every opportunity for help, you cannot force someone to choose sobriety. Their decision is their responsibility. Letting go of guilt allows you to show up for your child in a healthier, more stable way. It also frees you to turn to God for peace and wisdom.
2. Love Without Enabling
Loving your child does not mean accepting or supporting their addiction. Many parents unintentionally enable substance use by shielding their child from consequences or helping them avoid accountability. You can show love by being honest, holding boundaries, and letting them experience the impact of their choices. Make it clear that you are here when they are ready for help. Healthy love is rooted in truth.
3. Take Care of Yourself
When someone you love is caught in addiction, it is easy to neglect your own needs. You may feel constant worry, sadness, or even shame. But you cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritize your physical and emotional health. Eat well, rest, stay active, and talk to someone you trust. Spending time in prayer, reading Scripture, and being in community can renew your hope. When you care for yourself, you become a more grounded source of support for your child.
4. Find a Support Network
You are not alone in this. Many parents are quietly struggling through the same experience. It helps to talk to others who understand. Support groups, local churches, or trusted friends can offer strength and perspective. A counselor or pastor can guide you through your emotions and provide wisdom. You do not have to carry this burden by yourself. Community offers comfort, and God promises to be near to the brokenhearted.
We're Here to Support Your Family
At Good Landing Recovery, we walk alongside individuals in addiction and the families who love them. If your child is ready for treatment or you want to learn how to support them better, contact us today. Our Christ-centered approach leads to lasting transformation and renewed hope.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I force my adult child to go to rehab?
In most states, adults must enter rehab voluntarily. There are some exceptions based on mental health laws, but these vary widely. The best approach is to encourage treatment, set clear boundaries, and stay available for when your child is ready.
Is it okay to cut off financial support for my addicted child?
Yes. In many cases, continuing to provide money or housing only enables the addiction. Boundaries are loving when they are clear, consistent, and communicated with compassion.
What are signs that I may be enabling my child?
Common signs include covering up their behavior, paying their bills, making excuses for them, or avoiding conflict to keep peace. If your actions are protecting them from consequences, you may be enabling them.
Are there Christian support groups for parents?
Yes. Some churches offer specific recovery ministries, and national organizations like Celebrate Recovery and Al-Anon include Christ-centered options for family members of addicts.
